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Tips For Successful Haircuts For Children With Autism

Posted by on Jul 29, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Tips For Successful Haircuts For Children With Autism

Haircuts can be challenging for children on the autism spectrum. The combination of sitting still in a strange environment, along with the different sights, sounds, and feelings, can lead to stress or a meltdown. Fortunately, you can work with your child to help them overcome any fears or difficulties so that a haircut isn’t a stressful event. Tip #1: Practice at home One of the key exercises to help your child be more comfortable at the salon is to begin by play acting a visit regularly at home. To do this, begin by creating a mini-salon at home. Get a chair where the child’s feet won’t touch the ground. If possible, a bar stool or similar type of chair works well because the feel is similar to the salon chairs. Drape a towel around your child and then use a spray bottle to wet their hair and comb it. Then, finish up by using your fingers as scissors to “cut” the hair.  This process may be hard for your child at first, so keep it short and positive. If spritzing the hair with water is too much, then step back and try a different tactic, such as wetting the comb instead. Tip #2: Plan a preliminary visit Once your child is comfortable with the basic idea of a haircut, move on to planning your visit. Your first visit to the salon should simply be to introduce your child to the location and the staff. Call ahead and explain the situation, and then ask if there is a slow time when you can stop by. Ideally, your child will be allowed a supervised exploration and a demonstration of how different things in the salon work. Then, you can schedule an appointment for the actual haircut. Once again, request a slow time for the appointment, preferably at a time of day when you know your child is in good spirits. Tip #3: Set up a reinforcing plan Have positive reinforcement ready for each step of the process. This could be any treat that works well as a reward for your child. If your child is capable of following all the steps, then save the reinforcement item until the end of the visit. If following the steps to a complete haircut is a challenge for your child, then bring several rewards and offer a reward each time they reach a predetermined success point. Tip #4: Avoid known stressors Some parts of the haircut can be more stressful than others. Some kids can’t stand to have their hair washed, so skip the shampooing at the salon. If the noise or touch of an electric razor is frightening, then ask for a scissors-only haircut. Fortunately, most stressors can be avoided or amended so that they aren’t as difficult for your child. Talk to an autism counselor if you need more help. For more information about helping your autistic child, contact a counselor in your...

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Couples Therapy: Is It Time To Throw In The Towel?

Posted by on Jul 13, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Couples Therapy: Is It Time To Throw In The Towel?

As much as one would like to think otherwise, even though couples therapy can turn the tides in many failing relationships, all relationships cannot always be fixed through couples therapy. In fact, in some cases, couples therapy can actually help you discover that you are in an unhealthy relationship and that it is time to go your separate ways. If you are having problems in your relationship, whether you are married or not, couples therapy is a must. The following three things are indicators that a relationship between two people should not continue. Outside Affairs If one or both parties to a relationship are involved in an outside affair and has no desire to stop, there is generally no sense in continuing the relationship. Many couples have been able to successfully survive infidelity and become stronger. Country star Alan Jackson and his wife Denise are a shining example of this. If the cheating partner shows no remorse or regret, it’s time to move on and leave the relationship behind. Unwillingness to Change If you or your partner are completely resistant to change and want to have your way every day, you should move on and find a new path for yourself that doesn’t include your partner. A relationship is a two-way street, and it takes compromise from both parties to succeed. If one or both partners are unwilling to bend and compromise, there is no reason to continue in this toxic relationship.  You Have Given Up This is one of the most heartbreaking scenarios; when a couple comes to relationship counseling, and one partner has hope for a reconciliation, while the other partner has completely given up and has no desire to fix what is broken. It is important to be able to recognize whether a relationship can be repaired. If your partner has completely given up on your relationship, you are only driving yourself crazy if you delay the inevitable. Take your freedom, utilize all the resources available to you to help you heal, and move on with your life.  While couples therapy can benefit all couples in some way, whether the relationship is a happy and healthy relationship or not, therapy for rough relationships is a must. This therapy can either help you fix what is broken, or decide when it is time to move on with your life without your current partner. It is important to find the right therapist and get started right away so you can find...

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Determining When An Involuntary Commitment Is Warranted

Posted by on Apr 6, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Determining When An Involuntary Commitment Is Warranted

If you are the caregiver of a mentally ill loved one, then you are likely aware that a serious mental health-related crisis could occur at any time. Mental health crises can certainly be very stressful, and knowing the proper way to handle such a situation can be daunting. Of course in certain situations, having your loved one involuntarily committed is an option, but the entire process can be confusing. Here are some tips for determining when this legal process may be warranted: Make safety your # 1 priority Having a person’s rights taken away from them in an involuntary commitment process is a big deal, so you want to make absolutely sure that it’s only used as an absolute last alternative. If your relative is making threats about personally taking his or her life, or possibly hurting someone else, how can you determine whether they’re serious or not? You need to watch the person carefully and determine if he or she is isolative, despondent and irritable. These can be very important indicators that your loved one is in danger. However, even if you’re sure that your loved one is serious when making threats, visiting your local magistrate’s office isn’t necessarily warranted. Making an immediate appointment with a mental health professional can provide your loved one with treatment that can improve his or her mood significantly.  Another thing to take into consideration is whether or not your loved one has a history of suicide attempts or is currently abusing one or more substances. Either situation increases the likelihood that he or she will follow through with a suicide attempt, so if any threats are made then you should seek help immediately. If an immediate appointment with a mental health professional isn’t available, then an IVC may be warranted. Seek a professional’s advice Depending on where you live, there may be walk-in crisis services available that can take the responsibility off you when it comes to determining whether involuntary commitment is necessary. If there is no clinic in your area offering walk-in services, or immediate mental health treatment isn’t available, then there may be mobile crisis services available. Mobile crisis services are available in many areas, and they can come to your location, wherever it may be, and assess the individual in question. The mobile crisis clinician can help you determine what your best course of action is. You can call your local police department or social services office, who can refer you to mobile crisis services. The involuntary commitment process was created to ensure that mentally ill individuals and those around them remain safe at all times. It is not a process that is intended to be abused, and if you are unsure how to proceed in a certain situation, then by all means seek the advice of a police officer or mental health professional, such as Dr. Stephen Brown &...

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Helping Children Manage Anger With Control

Posted by on Feb 18, 2016 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Helping Children Manage Anger With Control

Anger management isn’t just for adults. Children often have a difficult time managing their anger. To them, it feels as if the emotions they experience are bigger than they are. It’s important for adults to teach children proper anger management techniques so that they can apply them as they get older. Yet, it is also important to remember that they are children and may not understand some of the terminology that adults understand. Use the tips below to help your child manage his or her anger. Consider Control One of the things that causes high levels of anger in individuals is a lack of control. Whether it’s because they hear the word “no” or can’t get their message across, the loss of control can create negative feelings. This is especially true for children because they have very limited control over anything in their environment even in the best of situations. Therefore, it is important to help children focus on the control they do have in order to reduce the sensation of negative feelings. Helping your child to understand anger management can benefit them throughout their lives.  Remove Stimuli When a child is angry, he or she already feels overwhelmed. Loud noises or other people in the room can add to this feeling. Turn off the television and ask others to leave the room or be quiet. The idea is to reduce the environmental stimuli so that the child only has to deal with the emotions and situation at hand. It isn’t just about eliminating sounds either. Children who are upset and have an audience may try an elicit a response from the audience. Offer Options When a parent says “You have to clean your room, ok?” you are in essence asking the child if it is alright for them to do what you ask. What happens when the child responds with a negative answer? You offered them that option. Instead, offer them realistic options. By doing this, you offer them some level of control. Instead of asking if it’s okay, Tell them the options that they have to choose from. For instance, you might say that they have the choice of cleaning their room or sitting in time out. They can then choose what to do, without any emotions involved. Children operate under the very basic premise of cause and effect. If a tantrum ends with them getting what they want, they will have a tantrum every time they want something. The key is to teach them that inappropriate behaviors are not allowed by showing them how to control themselves and make choices that get them closer to what they want. you might also consult a professional to learn about specific anger management techniques that are age appropriate for your child.      ...

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The Benefits Of Addiction Intervention

Posted by on Dec 29, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on The Benefits Of Addiction Intervention

When addiction touches someone close to you, the feelings of helplessness can be overwhelming. Watching someone you love destroy themselves is one of the most painful experiences you can have. Although you cannot make someone quit drugs or alcohol, you can take an active step to help them overcome their demons. With help, you can stage an intervention. Addiction Specialist When you are planning an intervention, you need to consult with an addiction specialist. In some cases, the specialist will not only advise you on how to plan and hold the intervention, they may also be there in person. In any event, you need to have professional help when you organize an intervention, otherwise, you can do more harm than good, especially if the addict has a history of suicide attempts, violence, or mental illness. Pre-Intervention Work Before the intervention, you, the addiction expert, and those others who are close to the addict will need to consult extensively in order to prepare. Everyone involved will need to review the addict’s manipulative behavior so they will not “give in” during the intervention. Everyone will also need to agree on what boundaries to set. For instance, if the addict refuses to go to rehab, everyone may refuse to provide any more financial help. Parents of adult children may refuse to house the addict any further. It is vital that everyone agrees to the consequences and sticks to them; otherwise, the addict will manipulate their way out of going to rehab once again.  Treatment Program If the addict agrees to go to rehab, you need to have a place reserved at a quality facility, one that has proper licensing and accreditation. You will also want to investigate their treatment methods and their effectiveness record. In addition, you want to choose a facility that also provides services after the addict is released to help lessen the chance of a relapse. Your addiction specialist will be able to guide you to several appropriate options.  If you have a friend or relative who suffers from addiction, planning an intervention may be the best hope for their recovery. With the help of an addiction specialist and a small group of dedicated loved ones, you can plan an effective intervention that may convince the addict to finally seek the kind of treatment that they need. Proper planning and the right follow-through can make your efforts successful and start your loved one on the path to a new life.  Get more info here. ...

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3 Ways To Prepare For A DUI Hearing And Sentencing

Posted by on Nov 25, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 3 Ways To Prepare For A DUI Hearing And Sentencing

A DUI conviction can have a significant impact on your life. If you have a court date soon, there are steps you can take to improve the likelihood that you will avoid the harshest sentence. Here are three ways you can prepare ahead of your court date to make a good impression on the judge.   Attend DUI Counseling One possible condition of your sentence that the judge might impose is DUI counseling such as is done by Counseling Center of Illinois). However, you can show the judge that you are serious about your recovery by attending counseling sessions on your own. During counseling, you can learn to deal with your addiction, identify triggers, and learn what you can do to avoid making the mistake of driving while intoxicated in the future.  Before selecting a DUI counseling program, consult with your attorney. The prosecutor or judge might have preferences for the type of counseling that should be completed. It is important that you complete the course. Failing to do so or not giving your best effort could end up hurting your case.  Do Not Drive Following the arrest, it is likely that you will receive notice that your drivers license is suspended. The length of the suspension is stated in the notice. Regardless of what happens, it is important that you do not drive. If you are caught driving with a suspended license, the prosecutor could argue that you should not be granted a lighter punishment, such as probation.  The length of your drivers license suspension could be suspended. If you need to drive for work purposes, you can apply for an occupational or hardship license. The requirements can vary by state, so check your state’s requirements to obtain a license.  Maintain Employment A steady employment history can help make the case that you are reliable. If you are unemployed, find a job as soon as possible. If you are considering transitioning from your current position to another one, wait until after your hearing. You can also ask your employer to provide you with a letter detailing your work history and reliability. Provide copies of the letter to the prosecutor and judge to ensure it is considered before sentencing. By taking the time to prepare ahead of your DUI hearing, you can lessen the impact that it has on your life. Rely on your DUI counselor and other professionals to help you identify other ways in which you can move forward with your life following the...

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Self-Care After An Acupuncture Session

Posted by on Oct 30, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Self-Care After An Acupuncture Session

If you are looking at treatment centers for drug and alcohol addiction recovery, you may find more than a few offering acupuncture treatments. Acupuncture, especially a specific five-point protocol involving the ear, has become a common complementary treatment alongside more conventional treatments for addiction. Yale University reports that the treatment can give the patient a mental and emotional buffer against the desire to use the drug or drink of choice, which then lets the patient put other coping strategies to work. However, the sessions involve more than you just sitting around with needles stuck in you. Proper post-acupuncture care is essential. It doesn’t take much effort, and it helps preserve the effects of the acupuncture. Don’t Drive Acupuncture has a relaxing effect that can help patients detach from the urges to reach for a drug. That relaxing effect can also make you light-headed, tired, and super-mellow, none of which are very handy if you have to drive and react to last-minute problems on the road. Until you get better at staying grounded and alert after acupuncture, have someone else drive you if the appointment was at a remote location. If you are staying at a residential treatment center that offer the acupuncture onsite, head back to your room until any light-headedness wears off. Schedule Downtime Whether or not you have to travel to the acupuncture treatment site, clear your schedule for a few hours after the appointment. As mentioned, if you’re in a residential center, head back to your room and rest. If you are living at home, do not schedule other appointments afterward or volunteer to pick your kids up from school, for example. If you are working during your treatment, schedule the acupuncture toward the end of the day so that you don’t have to return to work immediately after the appointment. It is possible that you’ll feel energetic after the session instead; if this is the case, you still need to take it easy. Channel the energetic feeling into feeling good overall, and don’t try to take care of your to-do list at that point. You don’t want to overexert yourself until you’re more familiar with how the acupuncture is affecting you. Train Yourself to Leave the Points Alone Acupuncture needles aren’t inserted far into the skin, but they don’t sit on the surface either. Needle sites can form bruises and ache a bit after treatment, so be careful about touching the sites. Sometimes wearing gloves can serve as a reminder to watch what your hands are doing. Watch for Flare-ups You might want to write down how you feel before and after sessions, especially at the beginning. Some people experience flare-ups of the condition being treated — so you might find yourself craving the drug or alcohol even more initially. This should fade relatively quickly, and keeping track of your feelings can help. If you have a visual representation of your feelings versus when you started treatment, it can be easier to handle more cravings by reminding yourself of where you are in treatment. Trying to just remember what you felt like a couple of weeks ago, for example, can be unreliable. But if you have a list of how you felt and when, you can track how things are going. If you’d like more...

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3 Reasons To Meditate

Posted by on Sep 17, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on 3 Reasons To Meditate

Meditation is a great resource for anyone to take advantage of, mostly because it can benefit many different aspects of your life. You should consider taking up meditation because it can help with stress relief, improve sleep, and improve your focus. Relieve Stress  One of the biggest reasons to consider meditation is that it is a great way to cut down on your stress levels throughout the day. This is because meditation often focuses on allowing you to take a moment to breathe and relax yourself. This moment of relaxation can help you work through an issue that is troubling you and stressing you out, or to simply let that issue go.  This stress relief can help you out in many ways throughout your life, such as reducing the risk of heart disease, as stress is a major cause of heart attacks. In addition, dealing with your stress through meditation can also put you in a much better mood throughout the day, which will make life more pleasant for yourself and your loved ones, as you will be less likely to lash out or be irritable to them.  Improve Sleep Meditation is also a great resource if you find that you are having a hard time getting to sleep or if you are waking up in the morning without feeling as rested as you would like. The reason that meditation can help you before bed is because it can give you a few minutes to shut your mind down and stop thinking about your everything that you need to get done. Thoughts like those can often make a person’s mind race while he or she is lying in bed, which can make sleep very difficult to achieve. Improve Focus Finally, meditation is often a great resource for students or professionals, as it can increase your focus and concentration. This is because meditation often has you focusing your mind on a single goal or thought, which can train you to put aside all other thoughts and focus on the task at hand, even when you aren’t actively meditating. In addition, the fact that meditation can help you relax and relieve stress means that you will not be focusing on the stress or your mood, but on your work or studies. Consider taking up meditation today through the use of online meditation classes in order to begin taking advantage of the many benefits that this activity can provide. Meditation is a great way to improve your concentration, which will in turn make you more productive and effective when it comes to working and studying. In addition, the improved sleep and stress relief provided by meditation is a great way to improve your health and mood.  For more information, contact a professional meditation organization like Portland...

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Tips To Increase Sibling Friendship

Posted by on Sep 4, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Tips To Increase Sibling Friendship

Parents that have multiple school-age children often complain that the kids just can’t get along, and they always seem to be fighting. You must recognize that what you have been doing is not working and that you need new skills and strategies to change the negative dynamic in your home. The best way to do this is by attending parenting classes where you can get specific ideas to help your family. However, you can also follow some of these tips that you would learn in class. Be Involved You are going to have to start by spending more time with your kids. That means that you cannot just tell them to go play in the basement. You need to go down to the basement too and play WITH them. You will gain a better understanding of the dynamics of your children’s relationships as you spend more time with them. You will see what the triggers are for fighting and where you need to focus first. Don’t force interaction at first. Just watch how they interact, and how they play separately. Is your older son trying to read a book when his younger sister, playing ponies, jostles him? You will be able to nip a lot of arguments in the bud by simply being there at the beginning. Spend Time as a Family Spend more time together as a family. Read a book to your children. It doesn’t matter if they already know how to read. Simply make time for a family reading hour. You want to create moments and feelings of positivity. You may want to consider letting your kids take turns choosing which books you read as a family, but if that causes more stress and problems, then don’t do it. Work Together Working together can build relationships, but be aware that this is not about chores or cleaning a room. Instead, choose a project outdoors or at someone else’s home. Gardening, weeding, and painting are great activities to do together. Again, this is an activity that includes a parent. The benefit of this sort of work is that the kids can see what they have accomplished as they go. Don’t Force It The key to each of these activities is that you are not forcing your children to be friends; you are simply putting them in situations where they can safely build their friendship. You need your children to choose to be kind and respectful because that is the only way they will build strong relationships. And if you’ve got another baby on the way, contact a company such as Pregnancy...

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How To Help A Troubled Teenager

Posted by on Jul 31, 2015 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on How To Help A Troubled Teenager

It’s no secret that the teen years can be difficult ones. However, if you feel that your own son or daughter is having an extra hard time, there are definitely ways you can step in to help. Here are some ideas that might inspire you to help your teenager feel happier. Evaluate The Problem – Nobody knows your child as well as you do. Obviously, if you and your child are still able to communicate well, this will be a very important key in determining the severity of the problem. Problems You Can Handle By Yourself – Trust yourself to know when you and other trusted adults can step in to help. After talking to your child, you may feel that your child is simply stressed with too many activities and goals that are unrealistic to reach. For example, if your son has football practice early in the morning, a lawn mowing job during the day, and a girlfriend who demands attention in the evening, he might be physically and mentally worn out. It may be time for a trip out of town, perhaps to loving grandparents or a family vacation to the beach. You might find that the change in scenery takes care of the problem by itself. Another example of a situation you can handle yourself might involve a son or daughter who is not feeling self-confident. Sometimes getting contact lenses instead of glasses, a trip to the dermatologist for acne problems, or a shopping trip for new clothes might be just what the doctor ordered. Another idea would be to fulfill the wish of learning to play a musical instrument or learning a new skill or a new language. Anything that makes your child feel stronger and of great worth will be fabulous. Getting Professional Help – Be realistic in what you can do and be open to getting help. Look for warning signs in your teenager that show you there is a greater problem than you can deal with. Has your child given up great friends for new questionable ones? What about school performance? Are grades declining? Do you notice mood swings? Is your teenager telling lies that cover activities you would not approve? If you are missing valuables, there might be the danger that your child is stealing to buy drugs or trade for drugs. When you have come to the realization that your child needs professional help, you have many options. Your priest,rabbi, minister or another ecclesiastic leader is often trained to do counseling. If not, he or she will be able to give you the name of a licensed psychologist, like Carol Vinson PhD. If you are not a church attender, your family physician can also make recommendations. As long as your child is under eighteen years old, you have the legal right to get him or her the help that is needed. Even though it might not be what your child wants at this time, later the benefits will speak for themselves. Best wishes as you work through a difficult...

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